The Lopsided Church

Everyone is looking for something to believe in. Something to give substance to life. Something to clarify the reason why we're all here.

     In recent headline news we have watched cemeteries being desecrated, innocent people being brutally tortured and killed, unsuspecting victims loosing limbs and life due to bombings; men, women and children falling prey to human trafficking, protesters vandalizing property and people simply because their candidate didn't win the presidency and other such travesties. What has this world come to? Why the insanity? By taking a look at the lopsided church, I believe we can find the answer. 

     A friend, who was a long-time school counselor in our small southwest Kansas town, once told me that "gang members aren't looking for something to live for, they are looking for something to die for." Gang members want to be so sold out to something that they would die for it if need be. This thought has plagued my mind many, many times since our conversation several years ago.  Teenage boys (and girls) look for meaning, purpose, comradery, and family in groups that promise it, even though this promise comes with a very high price. In a nutshell, they look for a place of belonging.

     Isn't this what we all want? A place to call our own; a place with purpose, appreciation, acceptance and love. Don't we all fit quite comfortably into our own little gangs? As I live out this life, I watch people struggle with their identity. These are people who are simply trying to find out who they really are, and why they are really here. I, like you, have witnessed everything from the bi-sexual revolution, to divorce without cause, to job hopping, partner hopping and church hopping. I've watched the family and the church take on a whole new (and not so appealing) look. What is the problem!?

     I dare to say that lazy, misinformed, carnal and religious Christians have created what I call the "lopsided church" and the lopsided church has played a major role in creating confusion and causing a lack of interest in  the things of God, especially for the GenXers. Let me explain this statement: 

 1) divorce, child abuse, gossip, bankruptcy, adultery, addiction, drunkenness, obesity, profanity, and other issues look no different in the lopsided church than they do in the world,

 2) prayer, Bible study and talking about God, are reserved for Sunday mornings in the lopsided church rather than as a daily lifestyle,

 3) church is a social gathering that takes place in a facility that looks more like a bar than a house of worship in the lopsided church, and

 4) although discipleship is trying to make a comeback through small groups, in many instances in the lopsided church it is dictated by how many rules and regulations are interjected and whether or not they meet the attendee's personal whims. For example, does it accommodate one's behavior; does it justify one's choices; does it approve of one's lifestyle; does it appeal to one's senses?

     Everyday we read blogs, watch videos and listen to podcasts that tell us it is okay to live life the way we want because we are all human and "it is what it is." This beloved, could not be further from the truth. This claim is in direct contradiction to the Word of God, the Bible. The Truth is that we have all been created for relationship and for purpose. We all have something inside of us that makes us want to push on in this difficult walk of life. The key to understanding that something is found in knowing God intimately and wholly.

     John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but will have everlasting life." God sent His Son to die for you in order that you could become part of His family. Do you know of any greater love?

     Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you." You have needs, God is so aware of this; these needs include everything from relational connectedness to financial breakthrough. If you will seek Him first, above everything else, He will meet those needs.

     Jeremiah 29:11 says, "I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to help you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." By slowing down briefly, waiting on God, and seeking Him and His will for your life, you will know those plans; plans that are custom designed for you and nobody else.

     And, 2 Chronicles 7:14 says, "And My people, who are called by My name, humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn form their wicked (self-centered & sinful) ways, then I will hear from heaven, will forgive their sins and will heal their land." Beloved, your land is your purpose. It is the reason why God put you here in the earth. If you are not living life abundantly, then your land needs healing.  

     Going through life bouncing from partner to partner, job to job, church to church, while striving to find something that is real and fulfilling can only be found in a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. He has loved you with an everlasting love, He gave His life for you, He is sitting at the right hand of the Father always speaking to God about you, for you. You have great purpose, you have a clear and chosen identity -- God has designed you to make a difference in the world. This purpose is to impact individual lives with such an impact that will last through eternity.

     Let me apologize for the confusion and frustration that has been needlessly inflicted upon a couple of generations of people. Taking the lopsidedness out of church is not going to happen over night, but it will happen. We as believers in Christ have been called to look differently than those who do not know or believe in Jesus. We are to be accepting, forgiving, pure in speech and lifestyle; we should be careful of what we say, what we watch and what we listen to, and we should be careful not to condemn. We should live lifestyles that are consistent with the character of Christ. There is a way to speak truth without being ugly. There is a way to live wholesomely without being holier-than-thou, and there is a way to let the hurting know that we have been down similar painful paths without revisiting them. Knowing God's purpose for your life is a process. It is a journey that is not easy. It is a path that is narrow and one that few people walk. In fact, at times it will feel as if you are walking it alone. And, it is a family relationship, a belonging, that is worth dying for if need be. You are fearfully and wonderfully made to make a difference for such a time as this. 

     We at Woman Beautiful delight in the opportunity to pray for you and to encourage you. Go to the website, http://www.womanbeautiful.org and share your thoughts and needs with us. We can help you find real answers for real help that lead to real abundant and purposeful living.         

    

Father, thank you for the people you have loved so well by your Son, Jesus Christ. Open their eyes that they will see you clearly; open their ears that they will learn your voice; open their hearts that they will be transformed by you and open their minds that they will desire the things of God. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen, amen!      

         

Today's Religion

I love what the late founder of Campus Crusade for Christ, Bill Bright said, "We should live our life in such a way that when we crossover into heaven God has very little changing to do." This truth is so timely for 2016. We have been inundated with today's religion that calls evil good and good evil. Christians cuss, drink to the point of drunkenness, carouse, live in jealously, and create strife with those around them. And rather than being ashamed of their behavior and grieved because of sin, they simply say, "I'm just being real." Jesus didn't die a brutal death, spend time in hell and endure the pain of having His Father turn His back on Him just so Christians could be "real" by glorifying their sin! In my opinion these Christians suffer from one of two problems: they are either lazy, rebellious and unappreciative or they are ignorant. It takes hard work, faith, and selflessness to try to live a life that grows less and less sinful each day. Jesus never once said, "It's okay, I'll heal you and I'll provide all of your needs. You just go ahead and keep sinning. Do what you want. Pay no attention to Me." No! Quite the contrary! When Jesus healed anyone, when Jesus spoke to anyone, when Jesus supped with anyone, when Jesus provided a need, He always, without exception, told them to "sin no more" or He encouraged them to obey the commands of God. 

Romans 13:12 says, "The night is almost gone, and the day is at hand. Let us therefore lay aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts (sin)." We are to put off the wicked deeds of sin, which go rampant at night, and live holy (set apart, different, righteous, pure) just as God is holy. Without the powerful help of Holy Spirit, we are incapable of living righteously. Our reliance must rest in Him because we are met each day with people who are hurt, angry, and controlling; people, who in their misery want to make others miserable too. We are afforded opportunity after opportunity to act like prodigals and without God's help we cannot keep from giving into that pressure. We also make decisions, all by ourselves, that prevent us from living lives that are glorifying to God. Because of discontentment and jealously we think that someone else's life is more appealing than our own. Perhaps their spouse is better looking than our's or seems to be more sexually assertive. Maybe they drive a nicer car or live in a bigger house. Or, could it be that they have a better paying or more prestigious job. What we don't realize is that they have problems, hardships and frustrations too. After walking in the shoes of your neighbor's for awhile, I promise you, before too long, you would want your shoes back. These attitudes, or perhaps fears, motivate us to do things that are sin according to Scripture. Many people have affairs, leave their spouses, quit their jobs, party hardy, neglect their children, lie, cheat and anything else to look better, feel better and promote themselves. People fool themselves, believing the lie that says to look cool, be cool, and measure up, you have to act like the world. So Not true.  

James 4:17 says, "Therefore, to the one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin." I remember the Lord ministering to me one morning in my personal quiet time. I was frustrated by the way Christians behave. I mean lets face it, when a person uses profanity most of them have to deliberately speak it. Granted for some, cussing is their native language, just like lying is satan's native language, but it is probably safe to say that these people really do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and in this blog we are talking about people who know Jesus...Christians. As God and I were conversing, He said, "They don't know, you (and other Christians) have to tell them. So here I am, for the many of you who simply do not know, I am telling you. God expects you to "put off the old man and all of his evil deeds and put on the new man who is alive in Christ." Scripture shows us over and over what sin looks like. It also shows us what a believer in Christ looks like. We are to get rid of filthy communication, gossip, slander, drunkenness, jealousy, carousing, hate, pride, greed, lying and the sin list goes on. 

If you are Christian, a true follower of Christ, one who is a disciple of Christ, then you are to strive for a sinless life. A life that pleases God. Large religious entities are telling us that "God accepts us just they way we are. Go ahead, do what you want, you are already forgiven." That is a half-truth! And a half-truth is a whole lie. Salvation and the forgiveness of sins, past, present and future are not to be used as a license to sin. We are free in Christ, but Galatians 5:13 tells us to "not turn our freedom into an opportunity for the flesh." In Scripture, "flesh" is to be carnal and carnality is to have an animalistic appetite for the world. If you would like, picture dogs that smell a female in heat. God loves us too much to let us stay the way we are when we first trusted in Him as Lord and Savior. We are to be a shinning light in a dark and pain riddled world. A world that is desperate for the love and forgiveness of Holy God. 

I can say like Paul, because I understand where he was coming from when it came to a life once embedded in sin, "I am the chiefest of sinners." I struggle everyday between doing the right thing and the easy thing. It would be so much easier to give into the pressures of being foolish. Acting ugly. Demanding my own way. Getting drunk when I'm angry or hurt. (Well, I don't really struggle with wanting to get drunk, but many of you do.) Looking for a better, more rewarding life...for all the self-satisfying, gratifying, and edifying reasons. Actually, my life is very good. Yet, am I ever reaching for more, knowing full well that God has more for me everyday? Yes! Still, I wouldn't want to walk in anyone else's shoes, but trying them on might be fun for 30 minutes -- that is until their reality sets in. The hard road is the high road. It is the road less traveled. The road that says, "I'm going to do the right thing because it is the right thing. It will glorify God, and hopefully, it will be a consistent and good witness to others. I want to encourage you today to be a believer that God delights in. One who strives to live a wholly, holy and pure life. We have sugar coated sin and discipleship with toxic waste. Don't believe the lie! God does love us; He does accept us; He does dance over us; He does forgives us, but He also wants His children to be holy and pure and righteous, because He is holy and pure and righteous. Is it hard? You bet it is! But Holy Spirit enables the children of God to do, be, achieve and become all that God intends for His kids to. And, He does it without added unnecessary and ungodly behavior. Woman Beautiful and Mighty Man of God, change your attitude toward your walk with and witness for Jesus Christ. Change your world! Be a positive witness for the Kingdom of God. Help them know that with God, all things are new, different, better. And be reminded of this, in the words of the Apostle John, 1 John 2:1-2, "My little children, (a term of endearment) I am writing these things that you may not sin. And IF anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins (the One who keeps us in God's favor, because He paid the ultimate price for our sins); and not for ours only, but also for those of the whole world." The Bible doesn't say, "when" we sin, it says, "if" we sin. Strive for holiness. You are redeemed, bought and paid for in full, with the precious blood and life of Jesus Christ. 

Love and Sweet Blessings to you, Amanda  

(For holy and righteous Christlike living see the book of Colossians, the Holy Bible)

Rest...Revive, Rejuvenate, Replenish!

“And He said to them, ‘Come away by yourselves to a lonely place and rest a while.’ (For there were many people coming and going, and they did not even have time to eat.)” (Mark 6:31)

Life is full! So full sometimes, that we don’t even have time to eat. This is how it was at this particular time in Jesus’ ministry. There were so many people coming and going with the need of being ministered to, both physically and spiritually, that He and His disciples had not taken the time to eat. Jesus implored them to “Come away by themselves to a lonely place to rest for a while.”

Doesn’t that sound marvelous ¾ rest for a while? How many of you hard working career women, wives, and mothers can relate to not taking the time to eat because you just have to much to do? As a young wife and mom I didn’t need a break very often, but an hour or two a week did wonders for me. As a wife and mother of teenagers, I still didn’t need a break very often, but a couple hours a month certainly helped my attitude. As a wife and mother of young adults, and with many grandchildren and my own aging mother, I still don’t need much time away but a few hours every couple of months is quite nice.

It is no wonder the Lord commanded us to “keep the Sabbath holy,” setting it apart for worship and rest. That one day each week, if managed properly, is enough to rejuvenate us, making us mentally and physically ready for the coming week. Rest…sweet rest. Too many of us think that a golf game on Sunday afternoon is rest, or that driving to a neighboring town for lunch with friends and community group after church is rest. Or perhaps spending the afternoon near the pool playing with family and friends is rest. The reality is, those things are recreation and are not intended to refresh us. In fact, most of us say that we are more tired or just as tired on Monday as we were on Friday at 6 o’clock when the work week was complete. (Or at 6:00 on Saturday depending on the length of your work week.) It is because we didn’t take at least one day where all we did was rest.

Many men use Sunday afternoon to get their yard work done. Reality is, if they would work until dark one or two nights a week in order to get the yard work done and then rest on Sunday, they would indeed be refreshed, replenished and rejuvenated for the coming week. Therefore, accomplishing more the next work week with a well rested mind and body then they would have. I was the typical wife and mom who worked everyday of the week. There was just always so much to do at home. And on the occasions when I worked part time, my work load at home still had to be completed. After our kids were all grown and living on their own, I announced to my husband, “I’m not doing anything on Sunday. Nothing. Not one thing. I’m not cooking. I’m not cleaning. Nothing.” He gestured with a grunt and said, “Okay?” I simply told him that the Lord commanded us to take a day of rest and I was going to. After all, I figured if He worked six days and then rested on the seventh day, then there must be something to that command. No more would I be working on Sunday. It is one of the best decisions, for myself, that I have ever made. A decision I wish I would have made many, many years ago. Like you, I work very hard. I used to work hard seven days a week. Now I only work hard six days a week.

Rest, doing nothing, but relaxing; thinking of nothing except that which brings peace and releases stress is what replenishes us. I want to encourage you to do what is necessary to take Sunday off…completely. Doing no “work.” This might mean preparing Sunday’s meals on Saturday and using paper plates and cups and plastic forks for your Sunday meals. It might mean saying “no” to a few unnecessary things throughout the week. And, it might mean letting go of a some unrealistic expectations, especially those you hold for yourself. Leaving one load of laundry to fold on Monday, does not make you a bad woman. But, God’s guaranteed promise to replenish you, by worshiping Him and then resting on Sunday, will definitely make you a better one.

In order to be most effective for God, family, career, or ministry, you must rest regularly. You are Woman Beautiful…you can do it!

 

Love and blessings to you,

Amanda

Beauty Tip: Look at your schedule for next week. Make necessary changes in order to be able to make Sunday a day of rest. Do this every week. Until it becomes natural for you to rest on Sunday. (Or whatever day of the week you have available.)

Love Slave

February is the month of expressing love. What a fun opportunity we have to tell that very special someone in our lives just how much we really care. Hard as it may be, we try to find the just right gift and card that says "I love you, I am committed to you, you are all I want and need." And, "I really appreciate you!"

          I found that card a little while back, at the Senior Citizens Center nonetheless, while having lunch with my 74 year old mother. For reals, as today's young people would say. We were in the food line and I decided to pick through the card rack while we waited. There it was! It had all the right colors (even though it didn't mention Valentine's Day), a bouquet of roses (my husband's favorite flower) and some pretty fun words that included "hitting the thack and doing it til we're thore." (A very important expression of love and respect.) Did I mention there was a duck on the front?

          I have a tendency to be way to serious, especially in my writing. Lightening up is something that I have to work hard at. Although living for Jesus is what life is all about, I'm sure you all would like to have a few more practical applications to life's situations and circumstances. Because after all, practical application is of God. The book of Proverbs is mostly, quite nearly, just about totally nothing but practical application. So for February's Beauty Tip you get to see a little bit of me that struggles to come out.

          Feb's Beauty Tip consists of a month's worth of love expressions for your mate. I want you to have fun with the one you love. Pray that God would enable you to live, laugh and love in new ways; really enjoying each other. And remember, your Valentine celebration does not have to be on Valentine's Day. Be flexible.

          I've listed several love expressions that are inexpensive, practical and shout out, "Hey Babe, I'm glad you're mine!" If you don't find a few that will fit your relationship, then perhaps these listed will at the very least get you thinking about ways that you can say, "I love you."

• Write your spouse a playful note. (If it is sexual, be sure to follow through).
• Make his/her favorite dessert. If there is no expressed favorite, chocolate anything is usually good.
• Light some candles at bedtime; this always says, "I'm ready."  
• Prepare a romantic Valentine meal for the two of you. It doesn't necessarily have to be what you eat as much as the mood that you set.
• Buy a new nightie and give it to him as his Valentine gift. And then be sure to put it on!
• Spray your pillows with a fragrance he/she loves.
• Watch a favorite movie of his/hers together.
• Leave a special message on the bathroom mirror. (Lipstick,  melted chocolate or window chalk work great. When it is time to clean the mirror, you be sure to be the one to clean it.  
• Hire a babysitter (or recruit a family member or friend) and go out. Even one hour makes a big difference in a marriage.
• Give your sweetie some sweets. Kisses, Hot Tamales, Slow Pokes (ha ha, pun intended).
• Do something together that is very special to the other. (Go for a walk, read a book out loud, sit side-by-side, sit face-to-face, say the other's name followed by "I love you", lay on the couch together and do nothing.
• Find a good book that gives 101 ways to say I love you. Tell your significant other to pick out ten of those expressions and then get creative in your execution of them.
• Speak kindly, be supportive of, and refuse to complain.
• Offer to do a chore for the other; make dinner, empty the trash for a week, give the dog a bath.
• Find some good 70's love songs and dance in the kitchen together.
• Hold hands.
• Engage in conversation.
• Refuse to be offended.
• Laugh with your mate. People enjoy laughter; it works like good medicine for the soul.

          Throughout Scripture we are commanded to love: love God, love others. Valentine's Day is a day set aside for the express purpose of showing love. But what many of us miss is that we need to express love everyday; selfless, unconditional love. If we're waiting to say "I love you" on February fourteenth then we have missed the meaning of love. We should become love slaves; servicing those we love with perseverance, passion and purpose. Never giving up, no matter how our love is received or perceived and never giving in to the ever taunting demand of self. A pure heart with pure motives will always reap a great reward if it does not give up.

          I hope that you will put this Beauty Tip into practice. Use the month of February to say "I love you," in very special ways all month long.

Sweet blessings to you and your God given, significant other,
Amanda

A Lifestyle of Abundance -- 2012 Goals

It doesn't seem as though it has been that many years ago that we were bracing for the year 2000; being uncertain at what might happen in the realm of technology and society as we knew it. Now we are in 2012 and technology and the Internet are more vital today than Bill Gates ever thought they would be. As the story goes, Bill Gates thought that the "Internet" would never be a big deal and he really didn't want to pursue its possibilities, but his team thought differently. Yea for the team! We all need a team...those who will help us see and believe the things that we cannot. As I share a few of my goals for 2012 with you, it is with the evidence of things not yet seen (Hebrews 11:1). Goal number 1: I want to thoroughly clean every room in my house; this sounds like it should be an easy task but...I want my cleaning to include closets, drawers, boxes, under the beds, in the corners and etc. Leaving nothing unturned, moving every piece of furniture, cleaning windows, ceilings, baseboards and walls. I want to get rid of everything that I do not use or decorate with. This will also include the garage. Goal number 2: I want to finish two books that I've been working on for the past three years. Goal number 3: I want to become completely debt free. Goal number 4: I want to faithfully implement all of the Beauty Tips that I have included in my book, Woman Beautiful, and those that I post on the Woman Beautiful Facebook page. Goal number 5: I want to give more to the fertile grounds of God's Kingdom than I have ever given before and goal number 6: I want to love others well -- more passionately compassionate than I've ever loved them before! And I want this love to start with Jesus and then move swiftly to my family, church, neighbors, and community then beyond. This is probably my most significant goal. To love with sweet sensitivity that originates with Holy God. In order to reach each of these goals there are certain behaviors that I will have to implement -- a plan that will, indeed, enable me to accomplish every goal. This plan must include: working in my home everyday...intentionally; I will have to designate times to write each week and then stick to those times; I will have to monitor daily spending -- evaluating every purchase to determine whether it is a need or a desire. December 31, 2012 will be here before I know it and I'm convinced that "denying myself" for 12 months will not kill me. I will have to practice what I preach, even when I am tired; I will have to give strategically, not just making my usual tithe, but paying close attention to the voice of the Lord and being obedient to give as He leads and I will have to spend time in the presence of God daily in order to really know and understand His undefiled, selfless love. In reaching all of my goals, I need a team that will encourage me, pray for me and believe in me. More than these, my team will have to be willing to hold me accountable speaking those truths to me that I really might not want to hear. Thankfully, I do have such a team. This team is found in my husband, adult children, and prayer partners as well as the Woman Beautiful team and a small support group that I facilitate. You too need such a team! We at Woman Beautiful want to cheer you on in the desires, dreams, visions and goals that God has born in your heart. We would like to pray for you, answer your questions, and give you great ideas on how to embrace the woman that God truly created you to be. Please go to www.womanbeautiful.us and receive the help and encouragement that you might be needing today. We love you and delight in the opportunity to help you in this walk of life. We look forward to receiving your contact. Blessings, Amanda         

Becoming A Godly Woman In A Ungodly World

My book, Woman Beautiful could have easily been subtitled, Becoming A Godly Woman In A Ungodly World -- it's the challenge every Christian woman faces. In a recent conversation, my daughter, Whitney, and I were discussing the critical spirit that so many women have embraced. Harshness, impatience, frustration, and criticism dominate most days and many women lay their heads down at night only to grieve over their reactions to daily life. It breaks our hearts to come face-to-face with the way we've spoken to our precious and innocent children; realizing the hurt we've caused them and ourselves by our thoughts and attitudes is sometimes more discouraging then the stress of everyday life.  

     Just in the past few months God has set me free from these same death bringing behaviors. I say death because carelessly spoken words bring death to such things as childhood  development; invitations to parental involvement; and death to the dreams our children have been given by God. Not to mention death to love, acceptance, approval and the list goes on. Destructive speech is not only limited to women and their children but also to their marriage relationship, work space, women's groups and more. I call this aspect of beauty "Relational Beauty."

     The first relationship that needs to be attended to is woman's relationship with the LORD. Apart from Him there is no lasting change. I have walked intimately with God for many years now. Yet, and thankfully, I am still a diamond in the rough. A little less rough, but rough nonetheless. I believe that one of the reasons we are still so rough is that we are guilty of being discontent with the lives that we seem to be having to live. For many of us it is certainly not the life we thought we were standing in line for. Let me explain. I, like many of you, had been taken captive by feelings of hurt; hurt caused by the behavior of the man that I love. Or, perhaps you don't have a man in your life, therefore you manage all areas of your life, alone. Maybe you're raising your grandchildren and feel as if you've already been there and done that. You know that your grand babies need you, yet there are those days that you would really enjoy the freedom to do the things that you put on hold while you reared your own children. Maybe you don't have a husband and you don't have children or gandchildren. Perhpas you are single and simply believe that God has dealth with you somewhat unjustly. The demands, discouragement and disappointments that each of these relationships create in a woman's life are sometimes more stressful than we can manage on our own. This is why I know that our relationship with God is so absolutely vital! He alone can take the crooked road and make it straight.
     I cringe every time I hear a mother talk harshly to her child. I was, and still am if I don't wait on the Lord, that mom who jumped over the real emotion, which was usually fear, and landed...splat... right in the middle of anger! It is heartbreaking to me because immediate hurt can be seen in the child's countenance. Little by little a child's joy and innocence slowly die. Sadly, for many children, this form of verbal harshness is the family norm.
     Another more subtle form of death is that of husband bashing. This method of causing death is typical office talk for many women. Being frustrated because of having to work a full time job, cook, clean house and raise the children seemingly by herself makes very fertile ground for bitterness and resentment. Back-stabbing women in the work place add heaps of hurt to an already wounded spirit by down talking men and by coming into agreement with the one who is hurting -- offering insults, blurting out..."I wouldn't put up with that!", and making comments on how pitiful he is. What many  of us don't know and understand is that we all have similar hurts. Most marriages are not picture perfect. Rather than being offended by or jealous of one another, therefore wanting to see another marriage fail,  we need to be supportive and encouraging toward one another.
     Women everywhere go through the day to day tasks of living...alone. Not realizing that their singlehood is a gift from God, they are consumed with wanting someone to enjoy life with.   
     In order to be either supportive or encouraging, a woman has to know who she is in Christ. Apart from Him she will be disappointed and discouraged -- daily! Yes, we are afforded the opportunity to be offended every day. That offense will cause us to be short tempered, mouthy, insensitive, self-centered, self-serving and the list goes on. It is up to us to make the decision to be loving, kind and soft -- the way God created us. 
     Females have been created with and in femininity -- gentleness, kindness, tenderness; expressing compassion, extending grace. But, when an ungodly world crashes in on us...every day...our soft, tender and gentle femininity morphs into this really unattractive monster who's in need of some form of control. The need for control, because we are female, causes us to take on the role that was rightly given to men by God -- the role of authority and masculinity. Our voice gets louder and deeper. We make strange and intimidating facial expressions and we issue sarcastic and often times unrealistic demands on the little people around us. Little being both children and others we view as less or lower than, ourselves. The crazy thing is, we really don't want to be the authority. We don't want to be in control. Women, moreso than men, know that control equals responsibility and accountability. We delight in passing on that! What we really want is to be extended grace in order that we can become the beautiful woman that God created us to be. That woman really is a very loving and gentle spirited female. She gives endlessly without regret or frustration for being taken for granted. If we women had our ruthers, we would rather be the amazing feminine of God on every occasion; responding to the difficulties of life with kindness and grace. We would like to be well taken care of and given the opportunity to have a thriving, selfless, love-filled marriage, family, workplace and church. In being taken care of, we can then take care of those we love.
     Now, to become a Godly woman in an ungodly world. 1) know the Truth - His name is Jesus! In knowing the Truth, you are set free, indeed! Free from the mannerism, sarcasm, and ridicule of the world -- the lost, and those who are saved but have never chosen to take on the identity of Christ. His identity is a choice that few believers make. 2) know who you are in Christ. You have been Divinely created. Before you were formed in your mamma's womb God knew you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You are the daughter of the Most High God. You are a joint heir with Jesus Christ. You are the head and not the tail. You are above and not beneath. You are valued and deeply loved by the Creator of the Universe. 3) know that God has given you the Holy Spirit as Comforter and as your Power Source. Ask for His sweet infilling -- watch what He does!  
     When Moses sent ten spies into the Promise Land, 8 came back defeated. God told the Israelites that He was giving them the Promise Land but they would have to go in and take it by force. The 8 saw the giant men and called themselves grasshoppers in comparison, saying they could not stand against the giant inhabitants. 2 spies came back shouting the victory. They knew that all things were (are) possible with God. Because God said the land was theirs and all they had to do was go in and take it they knew they warred from a position of victory. They knew God would fulfill His part of the promise. This is to be your shout every day -- the shout of victory! In doing so, you will take by force what God has already given you. You have overcome! 4) refuse to adapt to the world, rather you are to be transformed by the renewing of your mind. This renewing comes only by spending time in the word daily...studying Scripture, getting to know God better and learning to love Him more. 5) become intimate with God. Pray! Learn to recognize His voice. Believe His words. Trust Him. 6) be holy because God is holy. You are to be in the world but certainly not of the world. Take on the beauty or holiness of Almighty God. In doing this, the day will come when the ungodly muck of the world will be so unappealing to you that anytime your life reflects godlessness it will break your heart and conviction will be a welcomed affliction. Literally, the attitude, behavior, and sin of this world will become repulsive to you and the joy of the Lord, which is your strength, will override every fiery dart that Satan and the lost world throws your way. And lastly, 7) deliberately befriend high-caliber Christians. Search out women whom you know are growing in the Lord, who strive everyday to live a life pleasing to Him and who spend time regularly in personal Bible study and prayer. You will easily recognize their Godly lives -- they will look the same in their home, church, workplace, and other public venues. And you will see the attributes and character of Christ in them.     
     Again, here are the 7 aspects to becoming a Godly woman in an ungodly world:
     1) Know the Truth - Jesus,
     2) Know who you are in Christ - daughter of the Most High God, joint heir with Jesus,
     3) Receive the Holy Spirit's supernatural infilling - surrender your all,
     4) Refuse to adapt to the world - be transformed by the renewing of your mind - know the Word.
     5) Become intimate with God - pray.
     6) Be Holy - because God is holy, and
     7) Hang-out with high caliber Christians.
     Bask in the beauty of Almighty God. It's in Him that you are Woman Beautiful!
Love and Blessings, Amanda     
                                    

Remembering 9/11 on 9/11/11

Like every other American, I remember, well, what I was doing the morning of the most horrific terrorist attach America had ever experienced. It was a beautiful September morning here in our small Kansas community -- just as clear and beautiful and seemingly peaceful as the skies over New York City. Making the last left-hand turn in my routine morning route as I delivered my youngest child to her second grade school, I heard the announcement come over the radio, "The World Trade Center has been hit by an airplane." A sense of wonder filled my mind as I kissed my daughter good-bye and hurried home to turn on the television. Consumed with what I was seeing, I watched in disbelief as the second plane came into view. What? What is going? This can't be accidental! I remember calling my husband who was already at the office -- asking if he had heard the reports. Concern gripped my heart and mind and an overwhelming sense to pray for the people involved and for America took root.

     I, like many of you, found it very difficult to comprehend that someone could have such deep hate toward us that they would plot a deliberate plan to bring destruction to so many innocent people in the hopes of bringing destruction to a entire nation. Al-Qaeda, meaning "The Base" a Sunni Islamist militant group, (Sunni recognizing them as people of the tradition) is a Muslim movement calling for global Jihad -- global "holy war." The US government responded to this attack on America with an all in War On Terror.    

     Now, 10 years later we're still engaged in the War On Terror and will be from now until forever -- as long as the United States of America refuses to bow down to Al-Qaeda. The real battle has to be fought and will only be won by Christians humbling themselves before God, turning from their wicked ways and seeking His beautiful face. We have no choice but to be on our knees in prayer, petitioning Him for continued protection for this great Christian nation, followers of Christ, Jews and for non-Muslims throughout the world. Today, in honor of 9/11, many have gathered all across our country to pray for the family members of that devastating day and for America -- one nation under God. To quote William Booth, I want to encourage you to "go straight for souls, and go for the worst." As you humble yourself before God, and pray and seek His face and turn from your wicked ways, I want to encourage you to also pray for the Muslim people. Not that Muslim's as a whole are "the worst" but the Islamist militant group that will lie, maim and kill to achieve their purpose and who has a plan to take over the world, dictating every man's religion and law, certainly is! Pray that God would open their eyes and reveal Jesus to them; that they would receive Him as Lord and Savior in order that they would be saved for eternity and changed for His Kingdom purposes in such a time as this. And pray that Al-Qaeda would be confounded and war against itself.

     May the words "God Bless America" never again be said with shallow commitment to God, but rather, may we proclaim His faithfulness to this country with hearts full of honor and worship toward Him.

     Love and blessings, Amanda         

Letting Go Of The Guilt From The Past

Too often we find ourselves consumed with the guilt of past behavior: drugs, alcohol, sexual promiscuity, verbal, physical and sexual abuse, thievery, lies, harsh treatment of others, addictions, pornography, violence, broken relationships, gossip, lust and the list goes on.

As I write, I'm reminded of an incident in which I carried much guilt and perhaps even more shame -- I hadn't realized that until now. If I recall correctly I was about 13. A few friends of mine and I were participating in a local Walk-A-Thon. I believe we were raising money for cancer. One of the girls in our group, who was a couple of years younger than me, was a little thick and had a lazy eye. Even though she was the cousin to a good friend of mine, I really didn't know Donja; a young girl about to enter her teenage years who, unknown by me, suffered with a rare type of bone cancer. Donja's shiny brown hair fell just past her shoulders and the smile she wore very evidently conveyed the joy inside of her. Although our walk that day would take us the three miles from end of town to the other, you would have never known just how difficult that trek was for her.

A little way into our walk, one of the boys began to poke fun at Donja. Actually it wasn't fun at all. It was cruelty and even though it was behind her back, it was destructive all the same. I didn't hesitate to join in. Caught by surprise, my friend, Paula, turned around just in time to witness my contribution to the ugliness. Immediate guilt, shame and embarrassment set in and to this day I have never forgotten it -- Donja died just a few short months later. Over the years my heart has ached every time I've thought about that day. I could have loved on her. I could have encouraged her on in the walk. I could have treated her with kindness and respect. I could have...but I did not.

I've been told that to let go of the guilt is a difficult thing to do. I believe it! My story, compared to that of others is perhaps small and insignificant, but full of shame nonetheless. Isn't that what guilt is? Shame in disguise. Merriam Webster says that shame is a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt; something that brings strong regret, censure or reproach.

God certainly has a different plan for the inappropriate behavior that we, often by choice, participate in. Romans 8:1 says, "Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." The reason Christ died is to deliver us from the penalty of our sin(s); to relieve us from the guilt and shame thereof and to cleanse us of all unrighteousness. Because of His death and resurrection, we are automatically forgiven of all of our past, present and future sins. Those we participated in by choice and those that were forced upon us. When Christ said, "It is finished," He literally meant that the consequences of sin had been paid for in full and therefore completely forgiven. God holds them against us no more. There is no reason for us to live in the aftermath of our sin -- guilt.

You might be wondering by now just how it is that you still feel so guilty? One of two truths has taken place and I cringe as I think of what I am about to say. You have either not accepted God's amazing grace full of love and forgiveness or...you have not forgiven yourself. God loves you so much that He gave His only Son so that if you will believe in Him you will receive forgiveness and everlasting life. This is the most profound truth that you and I will ever embrace. God Almighty, the Creator of the universe has forgiven all of your past, present and future sins. And He longs to be intimate with you. Won't you invite Jesus into your life today. (There's a prayer at the bottom of this blog post that will lead you into relationship with Him.)

The later truth, not forgiving yourself, brings sadness to my heart. If the God of the universe can forgive you, then who are you not to forgive yourself. I say this not to add insult to the injury you already carry but to help you see the omnipotent (all powerful) love of God. He is majestic and holy. He is righteous and just. He is absolutely flawless. He is all knowing and all present. He knows the number of hairs on your head. He knows your coming in and your going out; your lying down and rising up; He knows all there is to know about you and He loves you unconditionally. If He can forgive you, shouldn't you forgive yourself?

How? First, if you've never asked Christ to be your Lord and Savior, do so now. His healing will begin immediately. Second, the Bible says, "Confess your sins and He will be faithful and just to forgive your sins and to cleanse you of all unrighteousness," (1 John 1:9). The goodness of God never ceases to amaze me when it comes to His forgiveness and healing power -- an out loud confession brings wonderful changes to any (wo)man's heart and mind. And third, let Romans 8:28 take root in your heart. "And we know that God causes all things to work together for the good of those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose." When you asked Jesus to be your Lord and Savior, God called you into His purpose. You now have the wonderful privilege of working out your faith which will in turn bring understanding to God's purpose for your life. In that purpose you will find a full measure of joy. And I know that immediately upon praying this prayer, you began to sense the "difference" that He is already making in your life. Your love for Him can only escalate!

Woman Beautiful, I hope that you will dump the guilt that Satan has tried relentlessly to keep you in bondage to. Believe the report of the Lord, God will turn all of your pain and shame into something beautiful for Him. And, all of your past sin will be worked beautifully, miraculously, for your good and...the good of many others.

Love and Blessings, Amanda

Father, God in heaven, thank You for giving Your Son as the payment for my sins. He did die on a cross and He was buried but three days later You raised Him to life again. Jesus, come into my life, be my Lord and my Savior. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit. You alone have delivered me from the guilt and the shame of my past. And You alone give me everlasting life. Thank you. Live in and through me today and everyday. I give my life wholly to You. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen. Amen!

...and Love Your Neighbor As Yourself

as i write this blog from droid, it comes after a five day stay in orlando, florida. im not

getting my keypad to work quite right and it is really bugging me.

we are in a hotel in kissimmee, florida and i can tell thatg its not going to be a very restful night~it cost us $30; that should tell you alot! My husband says I m too paranoid.

I've had the opportunity to experience many parts of the world via the diverse people of this fun city: Vietnam to Mexico to China and England. Kindness has been offered by very nearly every person we have encountered. One man, who was very evidently less fortunate than me, quickly paid the 11 cents I had due on a purchase. Another offered .38 as I took out my coin purse. As I think about leaving, I wonder if I've been as kind as the many that I have encountered. I wonder if I have glorified God? Did they see Jesus in me? I certainly hope so.

Merry Christmas!

It's the most wonderful time of the year, indeed! Holiday excitement is in full swing: decorating homes, buying gifts, baking, planning and partying. I must admit, I am not a big gift giver throughout the year so come Christmas time, I delight in giving gifts; both gifts that are just for fun and gifts that keep Christ in Christmas. If you don't know me, a person might think that I am a commercialized Christmas participant. I even dawn my Santa hat regularly during the month of December.

Just recently, a little girl asked why I was wearing my Santa hat. I replied, "Because I have the Christmas Spirit." She in turn inquired, "Where is the Christmas Spirit?" To which I answered while patting my chest, "It's right here, in my heart."

Many people fail to realize that Christmas really is a heart thing. Or, should I better explain it as a love thing. God's love for mankind came to earth in the form of a beautiful baby boy born some 2000 years ago. There are those who would argue the birth of Christ -- the amazing, sacrifical and unconditional love of Almighty God. A love that has been and will continue to be embraced by many. Truly, this love surpasses all of man's finite understanding and without exception is the greatest love ever expressed.

Squatting to her highth, I spoke with the little girl, asking her if she would like to have the Spirit of Christmas in her heart as well. She responded, "How can I get it in my heart?" "It's easy," I said. "If you will ask Jesus to come into your heart and be your Lord and Savior, He will put the Christmas Spirit in your heart." She stepped in very close to me, turned her body slightly and pressed her head against my face. She then whispered a few words of which I did not clearly understand. I said to her, "What? What did you say?" She replied very matter-of-factly, "I was talking to Jesus."

As I've considered our conversation many times since that sweet encounter, I've been reminded that God is indeed omniscient -- all knowing. It doesn't matter whether or not I understood her brief conversation with Him because He certainly does. And, He knows her heart. Just as He knows your heart. Do you have the Christmas Spirit? Is Jesus living in your heart; has amazing love captivated your total being?

This Christmas Season, it's my prayer that you too will possess the Christmas Spirit -- letting the love of God fill your celebrations with the peace and joy that passes all understanding. If you've never asked Jesus to be your Lord and Savior, I hope you will right now. It's easy, just ask Him.

"For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And He will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace." Isaiah 9:6

He is the wonderful, mighty, everlasting Prince who is the Counselor, God and Father of sweet, unexplainable peace.
Love, Blessings, and a very Merry Christmas, Amanda

The Marital Bed, Remade

Today on Lucy Ann Moll's Sisterhood of Beautiful Warriors show we talked about sex: boldly. I hope that I have encouraged both the Christian woman and the non-Christian woman. It's my goal to not only help you enjoy the amazing gift of sex that God has given you and your husband but to also bless you and encourage you in marriage -- growing it into a marriage that withstands the storms of life -- making it rock solid!

It is true, 5o% of all marriages end in divorce. It's my prayer that your marriage will be listed in the statistic of the half that make it. Please leave me a comment about today's show. I really want to hear from you.

If you'd like to order a signed copy of my book please go to: www.womanbeautiful.us - go to the page labeled SERVICES and scroll down to the bottom of the page; then follow the ordering directions.

Love and Blessings, Amanda

Sex, Submission & Spirituality: The Things Men Really Need To Know

It is FINISHED! I hope to have my newest book in stores by winter 2011. I wanted to include a few brief excerpts from it. Please give me some feed back.

"One of Woman Beautiful's main goals is to love her man wholly: without reservation or fear in any area of their marriage. Although she knows that sex holds the second and sometimes first place position on his priority list, it only ranks about sixth, maybe even seventh or eighth, on her list of priorities. It's not that she doesn't love you, it's that she doesn't necessarily love sex." (This is part of the preface/introduction.)

"Outlined in the following chapters are what Woman Beautiful believes to be misconceptions held by her man. These misconceptions are not a reflection on his manhood, only on his knowledge and understanding of women and the differences God created between them." (This too is part of the preface/introduction.)

Sex: Misconception #1: Sex Is the Most Important Aspect of Marriage: "Because sex is so prominent in a man's needs, he sometimes gets it confused with respect. Therefore desiring sex often from his wife is, in his heart and mind, an outward expression of her respect toward him."

Misconception #2: We Can't Have A Good Marriage Without Having Good Sex: "Sadly, many women have experienced negative behavior in the area of sex. To tell her that good sex determines a good marriage grieves her at best."

Misconception #3: If You Love Me You Will Want to Have Regular Sex With Me: "It is safe to say that every man wants his wife to desire him in a red-hot kind of way. Unfortunately, the stress and strain of everyday life inhibits this loving feeling in women. Even though it was her desire prior to and just after marriage, it is more than likely that somewhere along the way, it was lost. Those differences I mentioned in the previous section move her from wanting you to wanting you to leave for a few days just to give her a break; to afford her the opportunity to simply be who she is and do what she wants to do without be concerned with trying to please her husband."

Submission: Misconception #4 To Submit Is To Do Exactly What I Say -- Without Question: "Submission is far more than doing exactly what you say. Heeding your every command is belittling at best. God united you two, giving you the command to become one flesh: one mind; one purpose; one dream; one destiny. Together with one goal: 'to love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind and with all your strength and your neighbor as yourself,' (Mark 12:30-31, NAS). God has purposed both of you to love him with all your being and each other selflessly. And through that love...to love others well. If your woman lives her life feeling like the hired hand, sex toy, entry doormat or cook/cleaning woman, then rest assured that submission is a very bad and negative word in her vocabulary."

Misconception #5: Submitting Means Becoming Who You Think She Needs To Be: "One of the most difficult obstacles women encounter in marriage involves being constantly molded and shaped into what her husband thinks she ought to be. Nothing disheartens a wife more than not being accepted for who she is."

Misconception #6: Submit No Matter Who It Might Hurt or Neglect: "Your woman truly loves you and wants to submit to you. In fact, it is by her Divine design that she longs to submit, especially to you. She cannot, however, if submitting goes against everything that she believes is best for her marriage, her children and herself. If submitting goes against God, her family and those things that are important to her, you will find yourself living with a woman who has become, or is in the process of becoming, bitter and angry; a woman full of hurt, resentment and unforgiveness."

Spirituality: Misconception #7: The Spiritual Side of Our Relationship is Insignificant In The Big Scheme of Things: "I truly believe that the lack of spiritual guidance in the home is the most detrimental of all behaviors toward the family: any family in any home. Husbands and fathers are berated in television sitcoms. They are made to look weak and mindless. Many sitcoms portray them as lazy losers who are incapable of providing for their family. Mom's rule the roost by making the decisions, thinking for the man of the house, and rearing children apart from and often times in direct opposition to his input, wishes or instruction."

Misconception #8: I Have to Make Her Become More Spiritual: "It is indeed your job to help your wife grow spiritually. It begins with accepting her where she's at and loving her in spite of her level of spiritual maturity. If you truly love and honor God and want your wife to be intimate with him, then pray for her. Encourage her without passing judgment. Make it easy for her to participate in women's events. Know and understand her deepest needs and desires and build on those."

Misconception #9: I Have To Make Her Less Spiritual: "I've found in many marriages that one half of the unit is usually far more connected to God than the other half. I've also found that men are more intimidated by women who are more spiritually mature than they are. God's purpose for you as a united team is to bring glory to him and invaluable productivity to your one-flesh relationship."

These excerpts barely scratch the surface of my newest book for men. I hope this little book says to men those things that we women have had difficulty saying to them.

Love and Mega Blessings, Amanda

In Response to "Karen said..."

I want to respond briefly to Karen's comments to my previous blog.

A nice problem to have would be thinking to many positive thoughts. I've yet to meet any woman with that problem. I've come to understand, however, that one of the most difficult strongholds in my life, and lives of many women, is that of negative thinking. Those thoughts that consume us to the point that we are crippled in daily function and productivity. Sad but true, many women spend more time thinking about a bunch of "what ifs" rather than "what really is."

I want to encourage each of you to think on that which really is: you are a beautiful creation of Almighty God; the gifts He's placed in you can be matched by no one esle; God places value in everything that concerns you; the hopes, desires and dreams that you possess have been given to you by Him; and, He has promised to never leave you standing alone: without help, comfort, provision, peace, companionship or even friendship. More than anything, God wants you to delight in His Presence just as He delights in yours.

I would love to be able to tell you that I have had a picture perfect marriage for nearly 23 years. That would be a lie. My reality includes spending many days and nights without my husband and rearing 5 children in a unwanted lifestyle that seemed to be mostly on my own.

John's search for significance took him to race tracks scattered over 8 states. He spent countless hours working on his cars and helping others with their cars. Fortunately for me, I felt the draw of my heavenly Father and joyfully acccepted His invitation to know Him better and love Him more. So for as many hours that I spent without John, I was afforded the opportunity to spend many more with Him and our time together was and stil is priceless!

I must admit, I did go through many hours of negative thinking. I gave John tongue lashing after tongue lashing -- in my mind that is. I wondered why it was so easy for him to be gone for hours and days on end. What was so attractive to him that he could be woed in both his time and attention better than myself or our family. A matter that certainly didn't help: I could identify every woman at any track who viewed John as open game. Knowing that most men entertain flirting, that really concerned me. I clearly remember sitting at the table having my quiet time one morning. While praying I said to the Lord, "What if John has an affair?" The Lord immediately responded, "If I allow it,". I interrupted Him, finishing His sentence, "it will be okay." He simply smiled. Beloved that brought more peace to me than I can express to you. Holy, awesome, Almighty God loved me so much that if He allowed it, if He allowed it, I knew that it would have to be okay. Perhaps very painful, but it would certainly be okay. On that day I quit worrying about the women at the race tracks that John frequented. Instead, I prayed. Thanking God for John's protection, physically, sexually and spiritually. It wasn't long before I became able to identify the times when I doubted God's faithfulness and protection.

Woman Beautiful, if I'm caught up in negative thinking it's because I'm really doubting Him. I want to encourage you to know God better and love Him more. Identify the doubt you have and pray, "Lord I believe, help my unbelief."

Regarding, wifely responsibilities. I believe that every woman, Christian or non-Christian, has these responsibilities: responding positively to his sexual desires, planning and preparing meals, cleaning house, holding her husband accountable, praying for him, and respecting him. I realize that in today's society, the roles of husbands and wives, men and women, have been grossly destorted. The reality is men don't know if they're supposed to decorate the house or mow the lawn and women don't know if their supposed to work outside the home or care for the family. Sadly a very perverse sexual revolution and women's lib catapulted the ideas that women needed to be treated as men. Consequently, both genders are now very confused about their identities.

I know, many will argue, "I work too so he can help with the household responsibilites." I do not disagree with that, but I believe that it is the woman's position in the relationship to manage the home. For me, and hopefully for you it includes not doing all the cooking and cleaning, but doing most of it and by all means managing it if others help. I love it when John cooks for us, be it on the grill, scrambled eggs with toast or dinner out. And I know from his mealtime prayers and words of thanks that he appreciates when I cook for the family. It really concerns me when I hear young wives and mothers say, "I don't cook." I think, "What?!@#!? What do you mean you don't cook? What does your family eat?" And we wonder why we are battling childhood obesity?

There was a time in our marriage that John demanded that I cook 3 meals a day. I didn't always delight in the work, but I look back now and feel very good about the way I fed my family. Now, 23 years into our marriage, John often says, why don't we just get drive through so you don't have to cook. I shout "Woohoo!" on those days.

Over the years God's has enabled me to take my negative thoughts captive, trusting Him. He's encouraged me to become the woman, wife, mother, friend and now grandmother that He created me to be. My ride has been full of twists and turns, ups and downs, joys and sorrows, but one thing has remained the same, God's love and faithfullness. I am forever indebted to Him not only for the cross but also for all that He does and continues to do on my behalf and on behalf off all that is important to me.

Let the joy of the Lord be your strength. You are Woman Beautiful!

Love and mega Blessings, Amanda

Thoughts and Their Destructive Power

Like many of you, I have warred with my thoughts on a regular basis. It doesn't matter what the situation might be: whether it concerned my husband, children, ministry, position in the workforce, church or society.

I believe our thoughts control us in ways that can be quite destructive -- to both the individual and those who are included in the thoughts. Let me expound. When a woman's husband isn't home when she thinks he should be, or perhaps when he said he would be, her thoughts begin running something like this: "I wonder where my husband is? He should have been home by now. I wonder who he's with? What's he doing? What if he's with another woman? That girl down at the convenience store flirts with him every time we go in there. She doesn't even care that I'm standing there with him. He's never said, but I think he kind of enjoys it. I'll kill him! No, I'll divorce him. The thought of him having an affair is more than I could bear. Why didn't he call me to let me know he would be late? How insensitive! He never thinks about anybody but himself. He knows I have dinner ready for him every evening! What a jerk! If I treated him this way he would never let me hear the end of it. But, what if there's been an accident? What if he's hurt. What if he can't call me? No, he's just fine. He just doesn't care enough about me or our marriage to give me a call. He probably stopped in at Joe's -- again. Gosh he makes me angry!" By the time he walks in the door, her thoughts have taken her from another woman to an accident to just hanging out with a friend. And by now, she's more mad than concerned. And we all know, if the woman ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

The inconsideration a woman feels when her husband doesn't make the effort to give her a call when he's going to be late, is escalated by her own negative thoughts. She has gone from being worried to becoming down right mad! Whatever sweetly anticipated homecoming she may have planned for him will now be shot down by her hurt feelings. She's been on an emotional roller coaster for an hour and however good the day might have been, it now lies in ruins.

Unfortunately, she no longer cares to hear about his day. She doesn't want to be the loving compassionate wife that he needs, and the dinner that was once perfect is now cold. And he can heat it up himself!

Do you see how the wife's thoughts have brought more to the problem then need be? When he finally gets home, she learns that his reason for being late might or might not have been avoidable, but by then it is too late! She really doesn't care to hear any excuses. Bottom line, he could have called. If at no other time, as he was leaving the workplace or arriving at Joe's, which ever may have been the case.

The men reading this blog could very easily be saying, "Home-cooked supper, what's that?" If that is the case then Woman Beautiful let me encourage you to make some changes. This could be a reason why it becomes easy for men to take their time getting home from work each day.

When your man arrives home at the end of a work day, his thoughts are not on pleasing you but rather they are on his stomach and some down time. I know that sounds self-centered, but he has worked hard, is tired and can't wait to get his hunger pangs satisfied. He's then ready to move to his favorite chair, probably infront of the television. I know we live in an era when women do very little cooking. That is a tragedy. I believe the reason why so few women cook these days lies in the value for women, or should I say de-value, many of us have embraced -- more destructive thought patterns that have got to be overcome!

Believing the word of God as absolute truth, 2 Corinthians 10:5 implores us to take every thought captive and in doing so, we can knock down every false thing that sets itself up against what is really true. Woman Beautiful, this thought pattern that I've mentioned may or may not have be relevant for you. But I know that there is some area of negative thinking that jumps in and runs you right over. It may not be concerning your husband but perhaps concerns your friends and the way they relate to you, your service in church or the community and the way others perceive it, or your performance in the workplace and the recognition you receive.

In all of these relationships, the way you view yourself determines the way your thoughts will flow. Do you believe that you are a beautiful woman created by God with value and worth? Do you know that God loves you unconditionally and that he has purposed you for greatness? Do you believe that this world is a much better place because you are in it? Do you know that you have the power to change lives for the good and for eternity? And do you know that you have been created with a purpose and plan that no other woman can fulfill? Woman Beautiful, these are the true things that you and I need to be thinking about.

I want to encourage you to deal with the root of your thoughts. Perhaps your husband has given you good reason to "wonder" why he's late getting home. Discuss the problem with him after you've made-up but before it is too far down the road. Perhaps it's your own insecurities that have caused those fears. If so, deal with the root of those insecurities. If you'll be honest with yourself, you'll identify the hurt that has caused you to be fearful.

This one thing I know for sure, the wicked one is out to kill, still and destroy -- without question and almost without exception, he will start in your thoughts. Woman Beautiful, you have victory over your thoughts. Let them be life giving and not death bringing. Let them buildup -- not tear down. Let them bless and not curse, you or the people God's placed in your life.

Praying you'll experience victory in your mental and emotional beauty.

Love and Blessings, Amanda

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Spiritual Beauty

Spiritual beauty is all about your relationship with God. It is being changed a little bit more every day. It is being more holy today then you were last year and being more holy next year than you are today. Sister, you cannot grow in the likeness and glory of God if you are not spending time with him. It cannot be done. Quit believing the lie!

Woman Beautiful - pp. 101-102

What About Divorce

The truth of the divorce matter is that God hates it. Malachi 2:16 says, "'For I hate divorce,' says the Lord, the God of Israel, 'and him who covers his garment with wrong, ' says the Lord of hosts, 'So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously'" (NAS). God was talking to the Israelite men. They had been treating their wives and families treacherously, and it grieved God deeply. Because he placed such high value on the covenant between him and the man and woman at the beginning of time, he hates divorce. It's the most violent or treacherous act a (wo)man can make against their own family and ultimately against themselves and God.
Have you ever considered divorce? I would dare to say that most of us have. We seem to think that perhaps divorce would be better than the situation we're in. That, Woman Beautiful, is a lie straight....
Woman Beautiful, Embracing The Woman God Created You To Be, pp. 47-48.

Submission

Ephesians 5:22 - Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord.

For the past 24 hours I've been struggling with a direct order from my husband that I have no choice but to submit to. The command from God to submit to our husbands is not one given lightly nor should it be taken lightly. As a rule, Woman Beautiful can weigh her submission on two things: will what I've been told to submit to be sin against God, and will it hurt others? If it will do neither of these, then she, me, is to submit. Every time I think about it I begin to cry. Is it going to be fun? No. Will it better me? Yes. Will I look back and be glad I submitted? Absolutely! Will it glorify God? Amen, yes. Nonetheless, every time I think about it, I begin to cry. I've failed these past 24 hours at "taking my thoughts captive and making them obedient unto Christ, knocking down strongholds and every false pretense that sets itself up against the true knowledge of God," (2 Corinthians 10:5). Honestly, I've ripped my husband up one side and down the other. Giving him tongue lashes that have the power to bring death to many aspects of our marriage. Satan doesn't care whether or not John and I have difficulties in our marriage, what he wants to do is steal my joy. Because, "the joy of the Lord is my strength," (Nehemiah 8:10) and if satan can steel my joy, he steals my strength! "Far be it from me that I should sin against God by ceasing to pray for my husband," (1 Samuel 12:23). In praying for my husband, it will bring the forgiveness and healing that I need right now. The healing that can only come from the Lord. The joyful healing that enables me to keep on loving him -- when I'd rather pop him upside the head and call him an idiot. (Yes, I'm way human.) The healing that strengthens me to accept the command in willful obedience to God therefore, submitting unto John as unto the Lord. 14 months from now I will be thankful that John had the courage to do what he did. And, by Monday morning, I will have embraced the opportunity to sumbit and trust that God will indeed work all things out for my good because I love Him and I am called according to His purpose. You, Woman Beautiful, are too! Love and Blessings, Amanda

THE FACE OF POOR

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6, NAS.)

Have you ever wondered why the word of God says that our thoughts are not God's thoughts and our ways are not God's ways? When we, God's children, take on an attitude of knowing as much or more than he does, it goes without saying that we will act, think, reason and respond in our own understanding rather than that of God's. God's ways are not our ways: he says, love and forgive, we say, stand your ground, get even, make them pay. God says, be kind, others-centered, giving. We advise, say what you've got to say and do what you've got to do to get your point across and if you give, even more will be taken. God says, do unto others just exactly as you would have them do unto you. We say, you're going to get dumped on, you might as well dump first.

Just yesterday, 01-09-2010, I had the opportunity to visit with a street woman named Gloria. I happened to be at the church alone when she happened to finally stop in after walking by on previous occasions. Gloria needed help, she said and wanted to talk to the preacher. Even though she was very anti-preacher, anti-woman and anti-police, she needed help and would take her chances with talking to him. She asked if he was kind and was he easy to talk to. I assured her that he was and she asked if she could wait for him.

Throughout our 45 minute wait, she shared much of her life's story with me: from the days of growing up with a grandmother who loved the silent-motion picture screen to the death of her husband due to cancer just six weeks earlier. She very descriptively told me how preachers didn't want to help her with cash in case she wanted to use it for alcohol. Or how food cupboards wanted to pick-out her food for her even though the hotel she might be staying in only had a microwave therefore, the food needed to be microwaveable. And "a can opener, that would have been out of the question!" she added. She told me how on one occasion a police officer advised her to go to the Sheriff's Dept. to seek help. He didn't offer her a ride, but added that "he was sure she knew the way." As I sat listening, I couldn't help but wonder what this fragile creation of God has endured over her 75 years. I marveled at her knowledge of the big screen giants of yester-year and her accuracy of contextual scripture both memorized and quoted. Although she referred to herself as poor, I saw a woman rich in many ways. As she spoke, I thought. All that she said penetrated my heart and mind. Passing judgment comes easily; would I pass judgment today? Was this just an old woman whose face, lined with the wrinkles of struggle and pain, had become a very crafted con artist? Or, could I be entertaining an angel unaware?

What God whispered in my heart required an act of love and trust, not necessarily for Gloria, but for God. Would I fail the test or would I pass it with God glorifying colors? Would I obey and leave the rest to him? I reached into my pocket and pulled out one of the bills that I happened to have there. And I said, "Gloria, I don't know what kind of help, exactly, that you were going to ask the preacher for today, but I trust this will work." Her face lit up, she kissed the bill, and thanked me.

I invited Gloria to church and then asked her if I could pray with her. She said, "yes," and thanked me again. After we prayed, we stood to walk to the door and Gloria turned to me to say, "Amanda, I think God brought me to you today." I said, "Gloria, I think he did too."

Debt Retirement

The day that I told God that I was done trying to make money so John would hopefully approve of me, he simply responded, "Finally." It seems like the Lord went to work in me immediately. This ugly monster I had entangled myself with would not be turned loose by any means other than God. I began crying out to him for help. I had no job and a mountain of debt. My monthly payments were is excess of six hundred dollars. I eventually fell behind on my monthly payments, and before long creditors were ringing my phone several times a day. This period in my life became darker each time the phone rang. Then one day, broken before the Lord, I told him he had to help me because I could not make the payments. On that day, he told me he would pay off me debt in a lump sum. I believed him!

Woman Beautiful pg. 162

Matthew 6:33 But, seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.

Jesus - Son of the Living God, Messiah. Thank you, Lord for giving Your absolute best for me.

Happy Thanksgiving - Love and Amazing Blessings, Amanda